Sunday, February 15, 2015

A Turn For The Worse



This is to let you know that my husband became worse each day after he was discharged from UCLA Ronald Reagan hospital last Tuesday. Saturday, he became unresponsive. If I had called 911 he would have been transported to a hospital in Bakersfield, where they then would have had to decide to provide transport to UCLA. In his condition he would not have survived this. 

In my desperation, I called our relatives who live about 45 miles away. Our niece Monique and her husband Kenny. Kenny, who has had some experience assisting in medical emergencies and also owns a wheelchair, said he would come immediately. By the time he arrived, my husband was unresponsive. We got him in Kenny's car, drove to his home in Palmdale, where I parked the Jeep and then Kenny drove us to UCLA. 

When we arrived, hubby's BP was 60 over 40, he was brought into a room in the ER immediately, at least 10 doctors and nurses gathered, each knowing what they had to do. They could not get the BP up, so I signed consent forms to do various procedures to help with this. Then I signed more forms. Before I did, I asked if my husband would have died if I had not brought him in. The doctor said yes, most likely.

They diagnosed him with an infection in his blood and his liver. They thought it had to do with the stent the implanted last week. All sorts of other things were also wrong with him, I can't keep it all straight right now.

As of right now, he is in critical condition, but more stable, in the Medical ICU at UCLA. I was completely exhausted by the time we left UCLA late last night. I spent the night in Palmdale at my relatives home. Needless to say, sleep was difficult to come by. I drove home through the beautiful desert morning light, so full of sadness. It is so heartbreaking to see him suffer so. And now I am worried, well almost sure, he will not have the strength to continue to fight this fight. We did learn that the cancer has returned or was never completely gone. Right now, his condition is so dire that the cancer is a secondary concern, nothing immediate. 

I talked to his nurse this morning, he is on a ventilator, pumped full of antibiotics and sedatives, and all the rest of the things they are doing to try to save his life. His sister visited him today. I will drive to my niece's house tomorrow morning and Kenny will drive me the rest of the way to UCLA to visit my husband. I am so grateful for this and for the fact that this happened on a long weekend where I could get some help. 


I wanted to let you know. I am so grateful for your friendship and support through all this. 

The dogs have been worried but so good. They are a great and calming help to me.

And now I need to get some sleep..... 









39 comments:

  1. I am saying prayers for you right now Inger. And for your husband to be comfortable and for the doctors to be able to help him. I pray for you to be safe with your family. I wish I was there with you right now. Sending you hugs and prayers .....

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  2. So sorry Inger, praying for him now and for you. So glad you had family to aid you and will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. I pray God's blessings on you now and his healing for your husband...

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  3. Oh Inger - I will step up my prayers - prayers for both of you. I am glad to that his family is near and will be with you. I hope your husband is not in any pain right now either. Hugs and prayers to you both.

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  4. oh, inger, i am so very sorry. i am grateful, though, that you could lean on family when you needed help most. bless you all and bless your husband's caregivers so that they may help him as best they can.

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  5. Dear Inger, all this is so upsetting. I'm so sorry about your husband being so sick but I'm glad you had relatives to help you in this emergency. I'm thankful that you can share all this with your followers. I'll keep you all in my prayers and I pray that your faith will sustain you at this critical time and for strength and wisdom.

    You obviously did the right thing to save your husband's life. Now I hope that they can help him get comfortable. I wish there's was more they could do. So sorry his cancer has returned.

    Big HUGS and prayers.
    Julia

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  6. Prayers for your husband today, Inger. And, prayers for you my friend, to stay strong through the storm.

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  8. What an awful situation Inger - you are lucky to have Kenny and Monique not too far from you. I hope your husband pulls through this… sending blessings to you both.

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  9. Will be sending healing wishes your way, Inger. I feel so sorry for you having to endure this. I know how it feels from when my husband was in the cardiac ICU. Stay strong and believe in his will to fight. Keep hope and pray for his improvement. That is the thing you must focus on. Don't think of the what-ifs. There is strength to be gained from having support. Use it.

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  10. Oh, Inger. I don't even know what to say. Thank you for the update, for sharing with us in the midst of your chaos and sorrow and worry. Your words brought tears to my eyes -- for you and your husband. Although I can hardly imagine what you are going through, I do imagine it. And I pray. I hope you can get some rest. Sending you a huge hug.

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  11. I am so sorry to hear this Inga. I will keep you and your hubby in my thoughts and prayers.

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  12. My family and me will add you guys in our prayers. I hope that you get to rest at least a little bit and eat right too. These things take a lot out of you.

    Your dogs are darlings. I know that pets can feel when there is hardship in the family. They love you.

    Hang in there and send good vibes to your hubby. God willing ,things will start taking a better turn.
    Hugs

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  13. Dearest Inger, I have tears as I read your words this morning. your darling man, miles away, and so unwell, I hope you will accept all travel help from your family, support from them, and all the love, prayers, caring thoughts and more from us all out here. No matter how far away we are, we care so much. Hugs ,Jean.

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  14. Dear Inger,
    I am so sorry to read about your husband’s fight to stay alive. I wish you and him all the best. While there’s life there’s hope and medical science can do such a lot nowadays.

    Keep up your strength. You may need it for him and for yourself.

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  15. Prayers being said right now - I'm sorry for what you and he are going through. Don't know what else to say right now. He will be in my prayers all day as I go about my day. Much love and hugs to you Inger.

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  16. Just finished praying for your husband but also that you continue to have the strength you both need. My heart hurts for the upset you are going through and am ever so grateful that you have such fine family to help you at this time. Hugs.

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  17. ánimo y mucha suerte, Inger
    abrazos para ti

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  18. I'm so sorry to hear this sad news, Inger. I'm praying for your husband and his doctors. Also, for you to stay strong and rested. I'm so glad you have family who were able to help you during this horrible time. Take care! ~Jeff

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  20. So sorry to hear this Inger, take care of yourself, he is in good hands. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

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  21. Words can't express how sorry I am about you and your husband. You are surrounded by love not only by your relatives, but all of us out here in Blogland who have come to care about you and your family.

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  22. Sweet dreams, Inger, from your extended "family"!!

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  23. Sending my best. I hope you have rested and the situation has resolved. Warm hugs.

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  24. Oh I am so very sorry to hear this. I have said a prayer and will continue to pray for him and you as well as for the doctors that they have the wisdom to know what to do.

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  25. Inger, this is so sad to hear. You made the right decision to go to UCLA. He is in good hands there.
    We send you our warmest thoughts and positive energy to get you through this and therefore be there for your husband.
    Thanks for letting us all know, I know how difficult this must be for you.

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  26. you have done everything right and have been a great wife. I am sure your husband has found this ordeal much easier to face because of you.

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  27. I am so very thankful you had help. God bless you and yours.

    Love,
    Janie

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  28. Rest when you can. Hugging my big German Shepherd, Hercules, helped me when things were so bad with my mother. Samson will tolerate it I think.

    I am so grateful that your husband's family was close enough to help and did so. Thanks for letting us know. I have been praying hard, and I will re-double my efforts. I know it gnaws at you to see your husband like this, and then to have to go away. I pray that the Father sends added strength and light enough to see what the next step is to take.

    You are a wise, strong lady though right now you do not feel very strong. You are capable of more than you believe. My heart is with you, Roland

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  29. Inger sending all my hugs and prayers. Xoxo B

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  32. I was so shocked to hear this Inger.You did the right thing and I'm so glad you had your relatives to help you. I hope and pray he pulls through and you get given more time to be together. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. x

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  33. I'm so sorry to read this. I will hope for the best. I'm glad you have your relatives and the wonderful dogs to help bring you comfort. Hugs to you.

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  34. So hard, Inger. Glad you were able to get help. May you get the rest you need. Praying for a positive outcome to enable your husband to come home and be with you, your lovely setting and the dogs (they do know when something is wrong).

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  35. Dear Inger .. I am so sorry to read this - having been away from Blogposts .. I have been thinking of you both and the dogs ... and the Canyon. I am so grateful your relatives could help, that the doctors were aware and attentive ... and that you both have peace - you knowing your husband is in the best hands, and that you've done the best thing for him ... he will know that too.

    My thoughts at this most challenging of times ... I am so pleased you have support nearby and I'm sure friends will be around ... it's never easy to be in this situation, it's never easy for us to be so far away ... but here for you ... I can only sincerely hope that comfort and care will be all around you ... with so many thoughts - and lots of hugs and love - Hilary

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  36. I know Sophie would be at your side and please know that I am thinking about you.

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  37. I'm so sorry to hear this Inger... I will pray for him. xo

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  38. Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way for your hubby and rest for you.

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Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger

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