Tuesday, May 12, 2015

A New Beginning.....


I want to write a tribute to my husband and also let you know about the wonderful celebration of his life that took place on May 6th, but I have been exhausted and there's so much to do.....

Hopefully, I will get to it soon. 


In the meantime, I'm posting this to let you know that, although I'm more tired than I have ever been in my life, I am doing OK. My days are filled with both sadness and joy and that's how it will be for a long time to come, I'm sure. Family, friends, and you all have been so wonderful and that's what brings the joy. And Samson and Faith, of course. And the house finches that sing their pretty songs every morning as the sun rises over the mountains. 


The service was on Wednesday last week. On Thursday, it rained, it poured down all day long, so wonderful, so needed. Then Friday, Rachael came up with her friend, Luz, who quickly became my friend too. A lovely, lovely woman.


Rachael drove us up on Tehachapi mountain to show Luz the monastery. We know sister Mary Magdalene, who manages the gift shop, and Rachael thought to ask her for prayers for Errol. When all was said and done, and I contributed a small amount to the monastery,  the sister said, "for this we can ask the Father to say a mass for Errol." She was so sweet, and even though Errol had moved away from his Catholic faith, I said thank you. Then she said, "please come up here often, you will find peace here." I will, it is lovely there. 


Then we drove up to around 6,000 feet, where we found snow, saw pogo nip in the distance, and got very, very cold. 



Rachael and Luz in the snow.


Afterwards, we had a nice lunch and then we went thrift store shopping. I was so cold, I bought a really nice, really big and warm sweater. After a visit to the Mountain Spirit Center, here in the canyon, we went back to my house. 


Where Faith and Samson were on their worst behavior, jumping on both Rachael and Luz. Some dog training is in store for Faith. I will have time now. We took the dogs out and went down to a gully where Luz and Rachael picked rocks for Luz's rock/succlent garden. A lovely day, a new life, beginning, slowly........



These flowers are for you my dear, dear blogger friends. Thank you for all your loving comments, thank you for sending your followers over to leave comments for me, thank you for being concerned about me, thank you for your cards and emails, and most of all: Thank you for caring. 

I don't think I will be back to a regular blogging schedule, to reading and commenting on posts, and so on, for a while yet. I just need time to get my life together, I need to mourn, to cry, to smile, to work on moving on. Much love and many hugs to all of you. 


Mommy, what's dog training?








49 comments:

  1. Inger, I'm so thankful for the update and reading that you are doing ok. New beginnings are always hard. I will be praying for you during these days to come as you adjust to the new normal. Take care! -Jeff

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  2. It is good to hear you have begun healing.

    I am here if you need to talk.

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  3. so good to see rachael checking in on you and making sure you have a little getaway and a peaceful visit to the monastery. my mother was a lifelong catholic and believed in having masses said for passed souls so it made me feel good when the sister would have a mass said for your husband. i am glad you are just taking one day at a time. i know there is too much to do, too much to think about, too much to process, but i'm glad you have your babies to keep you smiling and all the lovely nature of the canyon, too.

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  4. Thank you, Inger, for this. We were wondering about you.
    yes, time is healing and you must take as long as needed.
    I am happy that you are with family and friends and of course the dogs.
    Take care and all the best to you.

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  5. I am happy to see this post ... even in the midst of exhaustion and sorrow. And I am glad that even in that midst you can find a little joy with friends and dogs!

    The journey through loss is different for every person and every loss. I wish you the best as you walk yours.

    Love from Ann, Bear and Auggie

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  6. Thank you so much for the update Inger and I'm glad that you have sweet friends to take your on higher elevation and to the Monastery. I think that the Monastery will be a great place of comfort for you. Wishing you, Faith and Samson all the best.
    Hugs,
    JB

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  7. So good to hear from you, Inger. I think of you often. Gracie's message to Faith: It didn't work for me... but hey... doesn't hurt to try. Hugs and licks to my Samson..

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  8. Yes you are now venturing down a new road which will have it's sad days and not so sad days. Losing someone you have loved for so many years is one life's most difficult experiences. Take as much time as you need and do a lot doggy cuddling, walking in nature, laughing and crying.
    We will be here waiting for your return!

    Sophie send nudges and whimpers as she is so good at sharing!
    Ron

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  9. Friends, a prayer at that beautiful peaceful place, Faith and Samson, and us out here, we all care, and trust you will take each day as slowly as you need. A new life has begun, and it is very early days yet. Many caring thoughts for you every day, hugs too from way down south.

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  10. Thanks for the update on how you're doing, Inger. I'm glad you had a day out and have the dogs to distract you and keep you busy. I think writing a tribute for your husband is a wonderful thing to do and it's a way of acceptance of what has occurred. I'm there if you want to vent, you have my email. Hugs and healing energies sent to you.

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  11. Thank you for updating us Inger, I think of you - and Errol - every day. Take all the time you need; we'll leave the light on for you.

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  12. Nice to see a post from you. I think of you often and say a prayer for you each morning on my walk.

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  13. I'm thinking of you Inger. Take your time. It is hard work...this thing called grieving. I am happy you are getting out. The pictures are beautiful.

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  14. Like so many others have commented, you have been in my thoughts and prayers and I have hoped you are doing well. Thank you for letting us all know that you are OK. I'm glad you find beauty. Also... thanks for introducing me to a new term. I had never heard of pogo-nip before.

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  15. Take your time. Grieving has its own pace and it isn't healthy to rush through. We'll be here when you are ready to post. Hugs to you (and Samson and Faith).

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  16. Please rest, Inger. Rest and more rest with Samson and Faith. I pray for you without ceasing.

    Love,
    Janie

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  17. Thanks for the update Inger. I was thinking of you and wondering how you were coping. I can tell from your posts that you have a good spirit and that will help you. Sending good thoughts and prayers.

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  18. It's lovely to read your post this morning Inger and know that you are ok and starting the healing process. These photos are great - a real sense of where you are. Sending you love and blessings.

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  19. I was so glad to see your post. Having people around will help get you through these difficult days.

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  20. thanks for the update and we will all be waiting no matter how long you need to mourn. such a beautiful place to visit with friends and exactly the place to go for this time in your life. Faith is gorgeous and does she have a surprise in store. we could use a little of the cold you found up there, we are going to 90 today. hugs and prayers coming your way

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  21. Glad to hear you are doing okay, and so happy your daughter and friend came up to take you out for a distraction to the monastery. Nice to know you are welcome there to return. Good luck with the dog training. My youngest dog definitely needs some of that as well.

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  22. Thank you for the update. We all care and worry how you are adjusting to your new pain. So glad your dear friend and now new friend were able to give you a respite. People and distraction are the best medicine. Lean on those who love you, including those furry ones. Praying you will soon find a bit of peace.

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  23. So good to hear from you, Inger. That was a beautiful post and I'm sure when you do a tribute to your dear husband that will be worth waiting for. I hope you visit the monastery as often as you can. Sounds like it would be very healing. You are in my thoughts.

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  24. It made my morning to see a new post from you in my blog list. Wounded hearts do not mend quickly, but over the seasons, they do mend and a bruised peace sets in, colored with flashes of love and appreciation for shared lives. I loved the beautiful photos of the monastery and mountains. The "WHAT'S DOG TRAINING" photo made me laugh. I am only an email away. You are in my prayers always, Roland

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  25. I have been thinking about you a lot! How beautiful a place where Errol is buried. Hope it is not to too far for you. It is hard to imagine here in GA snow!!!!!!!! And dog training - Disco needs that too. I was given a tiny succulent plant for our anniversary and I have no real idea what to do with it, but I am trying. Hugs, sandie

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  26. My dear Inger,
    I have been thinking of you every day and so wish we lived closer to ambrace you with much affection.
    Like so many others friends have commented, I have hoped you are doing well and many thanks for this post.
    I am happy that you are with your dear family, dear friends and of course with the companion of your adorable Samson and Faith.
    Thank you for these beautiful flowers.
    I am glad also to see your lovely friend Rachael and your new friend Luz with you.
    So cute Faith asking you,"Mommy, what's dog training?"
    Sending to you many hugs and healing energies and much, much Love too!

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  27. We were so honored to share Errol's funeral--no, it was truly a celebration of his life--with you. I still can't think of him being gone without tearing up. Take solace from wonderful friends like Rachel & your puppies & visit that marvelous monastery often. We love you!!

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  28. I'm so glad to read your post and know how you are doing. I know you'll have sad times but I'm glad you are spending some time with friends. That helps. And we are a praying community and that really does make a difference. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Sweet hugs, Diane

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  29. What a wonderful place. It looks tranquil. You are blessed to have some nice friends around you, and the dogs. Yes, healing takes time. I'll be thinking of you. Hugs, Jacqueline.

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  30. I'm very glad you got out a bit, and spent some time with friends. I feel sure in time things will be better though I realize it's difficult for you now.

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  31. Glad to hear from you, Inger. Also glad to hear that you have dear friends who are taking care of you.

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  32. I am so happy you posted to let us know how you are. Sending prayers. Thank you for sharing.
    xx oo
    Carla

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  33. glad to read your update - how u are doing - your friends - your trip to the monastery and those beautiful photos! I'll check back here and there for whenever you do feel u can pick up blogging again - but i sure get your need for taking a long break and getting use to things and grieving and enjoying those great animals of yours. lots of hugs to you.

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  34. Oh my dear Inger sending many hugs and prayers from Canada. Friendship and support furry and non-furry is what you need. HUGS HUGS B

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  35. Inger,I know I don't post on your page very often but sometimes just being here and no words are needed.Just know I do read your blog and I'm so sorry for you losing your husband.A time is always needed to mourn.Better days will be ahead and memories won't fade.

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  36. Oh, Inger, I've not been at my computer much this last bit, and just now read what's been going on with you. I send hugs and hope you can be well.

    Cat

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  37. I'm sure you will find peace in your own beautiful home and land as well, Inger. Take all the time you need to care for yourself and rest and grieve and heal. We'll be here when you get back.

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  38. I think that monastery must be a very beautiful, peaceful, serene place, Inger. How nice that it is close enough when you may just need a kind smile. Your time of adjustment has just started, and that's got to be hard, but I hear a bittersweet acceptance that in this season you will take all emotions one day at a time. I'm glad you've felt the concern and love from those of us out in the great big blogosphere. It's time like these that I think blogging is worth the investment in time that it takes. It does bring us closer and what you're experiencing is a part of life we all understand, at least enough to know we need each other. Blessings to you, Inger, and just post once in a while to let us know how you're doing. You don't need to worry about keeping up with us…all things in time. oxo Debra

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  39. Hi Inger - so good to see this post ... I'm way behind ... but it's a lovely thoughtful and peaceful posting ... which I'm happy to read and know you are doing as well as you are able in the circumstances. It will bring comfort to us all to read your news - and how lovely that Rachel and Luz took you up to the Monastery and to meet up with Sister Mary Magdalene, who is so supportive too.

    Snow - yugh! No wonder after your shop you went home for some warmth with the dogs ... poor Faith does not know what is coming ... Lovely post and thanks so much for showing us you are coping in the way we all do - grief, happiness, grief, mourning, then the walks with the soul and your two faithful friends ... I'm so pleased you are moving slowly forward ... it was lovely to hear the 6th of May ceremony was as you would wish ... and each day those finches welcome you to join them ... my thoughts and thank you once again for posting ... with hugs Hilary xoxo

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  40. Sorry I am so late with this. It sounds like you have friends to help you heal. I'm glad for that.
    This is a lovely post, nice that you have such peace around you.
    Hugs, Sharon

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  41. Thinking of you - thanks for sharing. So glad to hear that you have support around you and have found a special place where you can find peace when you need it. Special Teaching at Pempi’s Palace

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  42. Inger, I still cry for you...:)JP

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  43. Having been away for blogging for a while, mostly because of computer issues, my heart sank when I opened your post. I'm sorry, Inger, so very sorry and send my deepest condolences, along with hugs and prayers. Even though there will always be a hole in your heart, loving memories will nurture you. It's a comfort you're surrounded by good friends. Peace and prayers, my friend, as you take the difficult steps forward.

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  44. I came here because I saw your blog's name on another post... and desert canyons are always calling my name and as I spent a decade in Southern Utah and a year in northern Nevada and love the high mountain desert... but in reading, I sense a great loss that you have recently endured and I offer you my condolences. The monastery sounds like a place of peace.

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  45. You have been on my mind. I am glad I stopped by to find you getting along well. I am sure there will be good and bad days. You do need time to adjust. Stay strong.

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  46. Just letting you know I'm thinking of you, Samson, and Faith. Be well. Hugs.

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Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger

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