Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Three Months....



Today, it's three months since Errol died. 

Yesterday, one of his old school friends called; Harold his name is. He said, you know it's hard for me too, I have known Errol since grammar school and when we talked on the phone, we could relate to stories, people, events from a long time ago, instantly. He said, I miss that so much. 

After I let my dogs speak for me, things got a bit easier. I have offers of help and I have taken a few steps to help myself, as well.

I have also read your blogs. I found myself curious about what may be going on in your lives. I didn't have the energy before to even wonder how you all were. This time, I enjoyed visiting so much.

My Canon Power Shot has broken. I can't open the place where you insert the batteries. It's stuck. The silver lining is that I am now using the Samsung phone. And I have felt a few stirrings of creativity. I'm just posting that one photo today, but I have two more posts that I'm working on. 

I could/should, of course, be working on the Living Trust and the LA house, but today I got seriously sidetracked by blogging. A good thing, yes?

Thanks for your support. ~ More soon.....







27 comments:

  1. it is good to feel connected to our friends here in blogland. i'm glad it brings you joy to check in, and we are grateful to hear from you, too. 3 months is still a short time. don't push yourself too hard, but i am glad you are asking for help and that others are offering it, too.

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  2. I agree with TexWisGirl - 3 months is nothing compared to your life spent with him. Take it easy on yourself - enjoy the blogs!

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  3. Good for you Inger. That Samsung takes an amazing photo! Asking for help was very hard for me to do as well!!

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  5. Hi Inger - I'm glad Harold called for a chat ... and you'll be 'having those conversations with Errol' for the rest of your life .. and the dogs will too. Time passes, we go in and out with thoughts, but a change up is always good ... even those mundane changes ... like getting away from the bureaucratic wrangles that are there to haunt us and give us worry til they're completed. I'm glad you're happy wandering around blogland and seeing what's going on and happening. I'm blog-vacationing in a big way - really not going back to it til September ... and have enjoyed being able to relax into visits and not worry about the blog! Summer will slowly ease off - but for now I enjoy the light evenings and warmer days. Take care and I hope that battery case can be opened ... I had the same recently - but someone helped me open it ... I thought it needed 4 batteries, it got two! ... still at least I know what to do next time.

    Take care and with lots of thoughts ... Hilary

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  6. I am so happy to see a post here and will be here each time you post. I agree that blogland makes me feel better and seeing what on line friends are up to is a good thing. So glad you have friends that are helping and offering help.. hope you can figure out how to open the stuck battery thingy, but your cell phone does and excellent job of photo taking...

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  7. so nice to see you blogging. sending you love, hugs, and prayers.

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  8. Nice to see you here, Inger. I think getting sidetracked today was a good thing :)

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  9. Sending gentle hugs; so good to see you.

    Sometimes those 'sidetracks' lead us exactly where we need to go.

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  10. It is exactly where you need to be right now. I cannot say I know what you are feeling. I have never lost a mate and pray I selfishly go first.

    Mourning is an odd animal. I had not cried since Mom died in '99 and when Dad passed years later, I still did not mourn because I was taking care of things like Mom asked. Not until this year did I fully grieve...and it was while watching a tv show with a military funeral. I finally broke and began to forgive myself for all the what ifs we tend to think of when someone passes.

    I can never know how you feel, your loss, your love, but I can tell you I am here if you need me.

    Many blessings will come your way.

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  11. Three months, sometimes may feel like yesterday. Time has a strange way of speeding some things up, yet dragging on endlessly for others. Glad you had a call from a friend. I hope more friends get their dialing fingers working!
    Getting sidetracked once in a while doesn't hurt a thing, probably is a blessing.
    Hugs!

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  12. I agree that diversions into blog-land can really help us get out of ourselves and briefly experiences the joys and sorrows and beauty in other people's lives. Nice to see you!

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  13. Errol will always be alive in my mind--& my heart!!

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  14. We have been talking about making a Living Trust for ages. Every time my husband John shuts down. It will take some more pushing.
    Our Panasonic is in Texas currently, being repaired. I am also using my cell phone. Sigh.
    Every blog you post makes me feel that I am there with you. Other bloggers feel the same.

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  15. May God bless and keep you, Inger, and make his face to shine upon you. I have tears for you--for your loss and for your bravery.

    Love,
    Janie

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  16. 3 months, let the next 3 have healing and happy memories for you, and the last post with Samson and Faith at the helm, wonderful to get their news, sometimes those things that " Just have to be done" are too hard, is there any real urgency for the LA home and the Trust? Is there anyone in a legal field who can help? Meantime we all care, and send heaps of love, Your header photo, wind turbines on a ridge so like the one about an hour from our place.

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  17. I have conversations with dead friends for I know them so well that their replies come naturally to mind. Sandra, my best friend, who is dying of cancer has retreated from the world, including me -- but I still remember things she said to me in happier times.

    I am glad dropping in on your blog friends helps in some small way. I daily think and pray for you.

    I am glad Harold called, letting you know Errol is missed by those who knew him for years. Pace yourself. Give yourself time to heal -- you wouldn't put much weight on a freshly broken leg, would you? Always in your corner. Roland

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  18. Blogging is a good thing. there are always things that 'need' to be done but it's good to take time out as well.

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  19. So happy to see you blogging. It sounds like you are still going through some deep healing, and I send many, many blessings for peace and happiness. I guess the batteries not working on your camera was a sign to take it easy still, but I hope not too long because your photos are always excellent. Much love to you!!

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  20. Only three months but it must seem like an eternity for you. The grieving process is like a roller coaster ride, much like cancer treatment. It's an up and down movement and we can't control it till the ride is over.

    I'm so glad Harold called. I'm sure he misses Errol but I also think he was checking up on you. I'm also glad that you have Samson and faith to be by your side. At least, you're not completely alone and dogs can be your best friends.

    I was so happy to see a blog post from you and also a visit on my blog.
    I hope that you'll have a great weekend and i'm sending you lots of love.
    Hugs,
    JB

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  21. So glad that you are reaching out for help. I know how difficult it is to ask, but friends that truly care want to be there for you. They are just waiting for you to ask.

    Take care, dear Inger and know that breaks from the "must have to do's" is needed.

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  22. Good to see you are making some personal progress and getting back to blogging and picture taking. The camera technology in the phones now is amazing. I have taken some amazing photos for the blog.

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  23. I think it's important for you to maintain contact with your on line friends. I also live in an isolated location, and I think the contact with others through blogging is a positive thing. I enjoy both your photos and your thoughts, so I am glad to see a new post when I check my blog list.

    You and the dogs seem to be doing pretty well for yourselves. Shows strength of character.

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  24. Three months must have felt like three years. Time moves ever so slowly when we are in pain. I am so glad you are reaching out once more. You have been missed and thought about often. You have many friends in blogger land..

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  25. Dear Inger, so nice to see you blogging.
    I wish I could to be there near you to embrace you in person.
    Sending to you my dear friend, lots of Hugs and much Love.

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  26. It's good to see you back on the blog and also visiting blogs and thank you for visiting mine. Time has that way of moving on. I lost my brother last June quite suddenly, it has been over a year now and sometimes it feels a long time and at other times it feels like yesterday. It is what it is and we have to just live for today and enjoy it because that's what Errol would want you to do.

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  27. I think Im going to love the artsy side of you - love the photo! Arent you Swedish people supposed to be really artsy anyways? ;) xoxo

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Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger

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