Monday, April 4, 2016

C is for Crying and Crochet


Me, alone.  Life after loss.

The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. ~ John Vance Cheney


Not one of those stoic Swedes, Viking blood and all, I have cried so much this past year. I may remember something we did together, or something happens, news, politics and I want to turn to him and talk about it. It's getting better now, the crying, but sometimes I still get overwhelmed by sadness and I cry. 


Then the dogs come running, Faith giving doggie kisses, Samson looking worried. And the moment is over and I feel good again. It has helped me so much, crying......


Got this gorgeous bag for Christmas from my friend Rosemary. I use it for crochet as a reminder that, some day, an afghan project will stay in there until done. As you can see, this may take a while, I'm learning now. I joined some very nice women here in the canyon who meet most Friday afternoons to crochet and/or knit. It has been very good for me. It's so peaceful, so meditative, so lovely. I can't explain it. 



One day, my friend Jane sent the article below, which talks about the benefits of knitting. To sit with a group of women, in peace and harmony, making things with our hands, is special. It just is......

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/01/25/the-health-benefits-of-knitting/?smid=nytcore-iphone-share&smprod=nytcore-iphone















23 comments:

  1. Dogs have a way of knowing how we are feeling, don't they? And they can be so good at respondding appropriately.

    It's good that you have found a group where you can share an activity and more.

    Keith Channing A-Zing from http://keithkreates.com

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  2. Bag looks good! Wonderful gift...

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  3. When our hearts are broken, our loving pets help relieve our pain.

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  4. Hi Inger - I'm not surprised ... but the dogs do a good C for Comfort. Crochet - cannot stand wool anywhere near me ... so it's wonderful you can just be peaceful with your crochet hook, or knitting needles in hand. I love the bag - looks light, capacious and just perfect for your Afghan project. With thoughts and take care ... these posts are good for your soul ... and in a way for ours too ...

    Cheers Hilary

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  5. Samson and Faith share your lost and grief. They understand more than we know. It's good that you have found this knitting group to take your mind away from the void that was left. Wishing you a great spring.
    Hugs,
    JB

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  6. I used to knit. It was a very relaxing activity. I'm glad you've found comfort in it and your dogs.

    Cheers - Ellen | http://thecynicalsailor.blogspot.co.nz/2016/04/c-is-for-catamaran-nancy-drew.html

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  7. When my grandmother's second husband died, I was pregnant with my second child. She crocheted a multi-colored afghan for him and when she gave it to me said 'I cried and cried while making this. It is what kept me going.' My son, now 35, has always treasured this special gift and was very pleased when I asked him if he wanted to have it. Indeed, he did, and has it with him in his home in Italy. I agree with you that things made with your hands are very special and restorative.

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  8. crying is good for the soul and so is knitting. i see the ladies in a knitting circle at the local clubhouse and they all look so happy together. i am glad you hae the pups to comfort you when you cry... and i think the no one to talk to is the thing i would miss the most if Bob were no longer with me.... he and i talk about that... we will be in separate rooms and one will go to the other to share what we just read or saw or heard... it is no fun to hear someting on tv and no one to discuss or even argue about.

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  9. I crochet, do not knit, and I love small projects. Once in a while I'll be inspired to make something big, like my granddaughter's wedding.

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  10. Big hugs my friend. Sorry I have been MIA for so long... had some issues to work out but felt it was time to start blogging again. Give Samson a big hug too for me. xo

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  11. How nice to have the comfort of your sweet pups to help you through this time!

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  12. I used to knit a little, but I crocheted a lot, made a few afghans. I used to do it before kids as I didn't like to watch tv without something to do with my hands (I do a little embroidery too). My mother-in-law taught me the crochet but I had been taught some needlework as a child by an aunt that still thought young girls should know these things.
    As for tears, Inger, I have cried more in the last 20 months or so since hubs had his heart attack and I still do on days that don't go well. Our life has totally changed and all responsibility now rests on my shoulders. I think we get sad because we had the best, Inger, men we were with most of our lives whom we still loved. Two different outcomes, but trauma nevertheless. I totally understand that you need that comfort of the knitting/crocheting circle. I'm glad you are telling us about it. It will help. Take care of yourself and the pups.

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  13. Crying is good for the soul. It must be because I've done a ton of it! I'm glad you have the dogs. I have the grandkids! Knitting looks like fun and I love the scarf!! You are doing well, Inger

    Paula from
    Smidgen, Snippets, & Bits

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  14. Meeting with a bunch of women for knitting and crochet is wonderful. I miss my knitting group from my old town.
    I think a good cry is good for us.

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  15. I love the quote you used. It's so very true.

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  16. So glad you have those two compassionate furry friends. Hope the time comes when those memories bring only smiles, not tears. Till then, lean on those who give you strength.

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  17. I tried to crochet once when I was recovering from knee surgery. I tried making a winter hat and it just kept getting longer and longer without getting wider. It was like a super-skinny sorting hat. I guess crochet is just not for me! Hello from www.jennyrightside.com and the #AtoZChallenge!

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  18. So glad you are able to spend time with these women. Meditative tasks are so healing for the mind. Stay strong, Inger!

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  19. I miss my big Norweigian Elk Hound/German Shepherd mix, Hercules. When life sucker-punched me, I would hug the big fellow, and he would lean his big head against me: I knew one heart still loved me. It is so great you have your new friends. Friendship can keep a bruised heart afloat.

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  20. Crying seems to clear out more than your sinus.
    Wiah I could still crochet.

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Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger

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