Thirty years ago today, Errol and I got married. I forgot about this day last year, but not now. So I wanted to let you know, you my blogger friends who have been so kind and supportive.
I'm writing this the day before and I'm tearing up. I must be the most crying Swede in the world. We are a stoic people, most of us.
I will be OK, because I am. I am a woman, I am strong, and I know it is good to let the tears come when they need to.
"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight." ~ Kahlil Gibran
Hi Inger - what a wonderful memory ... and last year I'm not surprised, but this year it is just lovely to have this day and share it with us ... you've been a great blogger, taught us much about life in general and Sweden - and the love of your life Errol ... who made sure you had four footed friends to keep you company now ... happy memories today and ever after of those events 30 years ago ... with big hugs - Hilary
ReplyDeletethose words are so true. I forgot ours this week on 17th, and know you must be thinking of your years together, your life as it is now, and then remember all of us out here who care, and think of you and the sadness you had. Light a candle, have a cup of tea or coffee in that early morning light, and know you had a wonderful love, shared so much, and if there is a tear or two, that will help with the day. Love and hugs from NZ.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary. I agree- sometimes you need to stop and grieve and let your heart have it's say. We (your blog readers) are here holding your virtual hand. (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteYou are a strong woman, and crying is allowed. It is not a sign of weakness, it's just memories showing up on your cheeks. Sending you a cyber hug.
ReplyDelete"Memories showing up on your cheek." I love that, thank you.
Deletethat is a perfect quote at the end, cry on dear friend and it is OK to cry.. I know your heart is heavy today on what would have been 30 years.. sending you hugs from Florida
ReplyDeleteYour wonderful 30 years together will always be with you and crying is a part of healing that is a gift.
ReplyDeleteWhat a perfect quote for a sad day filled with happy memories - it's wonderful that you trust this space to talk about how you feel. sending you a hug from Ireland xx
ReplyDeleteWhat great memories you've been blessed with. Becca and I will celebrate 13 years this year, and I hope we have many more. I also hope that your day is filled with joy remembering the wonderful man God gave you. And it's ok if those joyful memories bring a few tears. That's all part of this path called life, and I'm thankful that you have shared yours with us. You've taught us much. Take care! ~Jeff
ReplyDeleteHe is an angel now and is surrounded by angels who are wishing you both Happiness. I know that you guys are not together, but your memories are the connections that will bring you closer emotionally and that is beautiful.
ReplyDeletePlease take care of yourself.
Dear Inger, having tears for your loving husband is normal and I think, healthy. It's good that you allow them to flow naturally.
ReplyDeleteAs you celebrate your anniversary, I'm sending warm thoughts of comfort and love. I know that you are a strong woman or you would not have come this far.
Thinking of you on this special day.
Hugs,
Julia
I don't know about that stoic Swede thing... Brett cries easily too (at things that touch his heart). And, I don't think crying makes you any less strong. It just makes you honest.
ReplyDeleteHe said it perfectly. Cry when needed for it doesn't diminish your strength but waters it. Sending hugs from Arkansas.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't a cryer either. Until Richard died. And now I cry about everything!! Good things, happy things, sad things, memories. Everything. Bless you Inger!!
ReplyDeleteI know your soldier grandson made you cry the other day. So sweet.....
DeleteHappiest days can still remain that, but in different ways. Love to you, Inger!
ReplyDeleteErrol was a beautiful man & we miss him, too!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a perfect quote and so true. Not many find the love of their life and get to spend many years together. Those who do are blessed. Tears cleanse the soul and soften the hurt. One day you may want to put the memories in a memoir even if only for yourself and family. Think also of the times that make you smile. Hugs to you, Inger!
ReplyDeleteVery moving, and the quote is perfect.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could reach out far enough to hug you! Know that I would if I could.
ReplyDeleteMy dad has been gone for about 5 years now, and my mom still does that sometimes when she talks about him. She's 88 now I think. They'd been married 58 years.
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of support across the miles. I hope you find comfort in your beautiful memories.
ReplyDeleteLove always comes with a painful price tag. Yet, you have happiness for a season. May the happy memories help just a little bit.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with crying Inger...even for Swedes. Remember the good times.
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