Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sunday Morning Reflections

In line at the post office, I talked to a man.
He told me he went down south to pick up his dad
who, suffering from dementia, was in a bad place.
The man told me his dad has fits of rage, falls down,
gets hurt, wanders off, police has to be called.

I asked the man if he could take care of himself 
in the midst of all this.
He said, “I always thought it weak to take pills,
now I take a Valium every morning 
just to make it through the day”

He told me his mom raised her kids by herself.
“What about your dad?” I asked
“I was terrified of my dad,” he said 
“and glad when he left.
He beat my mom and us children too.
I was very scared of him then.”

“And now you’re taking care of him?”
The man said, simply, “he’s my dad....”.


  1. wow. forgiveness of such magnitude...

  2. What a touching story.
    What a pretty day.... looks like promise of weather to come.
    Have a wonderful Sunday!

  3. Great story Inger - a lesson in love and forgiveness - thanks for sharing.

  4. A good man. A lesser man would have his father in a home.

    Great post/pictures

  5. A very moving story. Sometimes our children turn out better than we have any right to expect.

  6. That is an amazing story. I didn't see the end coming -- what a strong man that son is even though he doesn't feel it.

  7. Not sure I would be as forgiving as this man. He's a better person than I. :)

  8. Ja slaskväder som det heter, du har rätt var det igår. Idag fick vi lite snö, några cm bara och det är lite minus ute. Nu är det lite ljusare ute. Hoppas dock att det inte blir mer eller kallt. Jag vill vara ute med taxarna så länge det går tills säsongen är slut sista januari.

  9. Wow, what a great story and such a special man. I wonder if I could be as big as he is.

  10. Puts things in perspective for sure, Inger!

  11. Great landscapes. Have a nice week. Greetings from Romania

  12. I had a very bad and volatile relationship with my father growing up. My late husband convinced me to reconnect with him and I too cared for him in his later years. When he passed, it was in our home with me by his side. I am grateful to have reconnected and spent those last "good" years with him.

  13. What an honorable man! Great post Inger!!

  14. How very sad, and uplifting at the same time.

  15. Thank you all. I couldn't get this conversation out of my head, so I just wanted to share it. It is in the spirit of Christmas, of forgiveness, of love. Heroism, even, I think.

  16. Beautiful lyrics, Christmas is endearing,
    Very beautiful pictures,
    I wish peace and happiness these days,
    Happy Holidays!.
    a hug.

  17. A lovely story, Inger. Thank you for sharing it.

  18. Everybody has a very unique path... and story.


Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger


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