Wednesday, March 18, 2020

My Mother-In-Law


While looking for archive favorites, I found this picture of my mother-in-law and felt I wanted to honor her with a post. Her name was Noella, yes, she was a Christmas child. And lived all her life with Jesus in her heart, a heart full of love and kindness.

 The picture is from a restaurant on a day we took her for lunch. I forget what the dessert was, but I remember how much she loved it and how happy she was being out with us and Errol's sister and her husband, with whom she lived.


She was a lovely woman. She was born in New Orleans,  in a Creole family, in the 1920s.  Her life was not easy, but she always felt blessed. She raised nine children, had 23 grandchildren, and by now she would have had many great grandchildren. She suffered a stroke that left her unable to speak for about the last ten years of her life. She never complained. 

She knew how to love, to love deeply. Ironically, she suffered from heart failure in the medical sense, but her heart was huge and full of love in the most important sense. You hardly ever found her without a baby on her lap. If there was a baby around, as there always seemed to be, she would hold it and love on it.

And, as the babies grew up, they would remember and love her back, visit her, help her, and so on. 

She was a fabulous singer and very beautiful. A recruiter for Duke Ellington's band heard her sing in church and was very interested. She was only 14, so her dad said no way. Of course he did. Instead we got to hear her sing those beautiful old songs from her era. 

I met her around the time I lost my own mother. Noella loved me and I loved her back. She's been gone for over ten years now and I miss her so very much. Some people become the glue of a family, as she was, and nothing has been quite the same since she passed. 








14 comments:

  1. Beautiful.

    "You hardly ever found her without a baby on her lap. If there was a baby around, as there always seemed to be, she would hold it and love on it."

    What a wealthy woman!

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  2. Hi Inger - that was so wonderful to read ... she does look quite delightfully loving - and obviously she was looking at one of the 'apples of her eye' - as the photograph shows us. Excellent you had such a happy relationship with her - and were able to share many things with her - before the stroke. It's always fascinating how some people just attract the children, and when babies just are wonderfully cradled. She must have had some stories to tell - as too Errol and his other siblings. Sandi says it well ... loved this post - thank you ... cheers Hilary

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  3. So true that some people hold the family together. You don't always realize it till later. Your MIL sounds lovely, and what a great tribute to her.

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  4. you were truly blessed to have her for your MIL.. not every one is that blessed. she looks and sounds sweet and loving... it was good for you that you had her when you lost your own mother.. Bob says his sister was like her, she loved children..

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  5. What a bonus you got when you married Errol. The perfect mother and grandmother. With that welcoming smile, no wonder she always had a lap full. Wonderful that she got back the love she gave. Lovely tribute.

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  6. wow i loved reading about her - you can just see the love and kindness in her Being. How nice you had such a wonderful mom in law. I enjoy these posts about your life! And wondering if you ever had any recordings of her singing

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    1. I have one on an old video cassettes that Errol taped. I remember it well - she and her husband had a special song and she sang it for him. I consider all those old tapes lost though. I can't play them and I don't want to.

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    2. reading this reminded me I still have a video cassette player but not hooked up. I know what you mean about not wanting to play them. I have an old cassette tape of my mom playing her honky tonky type songs on the piano and I don't think I could stand hearing it - too sad.

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  7. A lovely and so loving smile, what a wonderful memory you can hold in your heart.

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  8. She looks so happy and has kind eyes! So nice you have such happy memories.

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  9. What a wonderful lady! And now you have written a beautiful tribute so we all know about her!

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  10. A life full of love and a life well lived. This is a beautiful post.

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  11. I could see the warmth in her soul from her photo. What a wonderful post.

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  12. this is a special post in so many ways. and so beautifully written.
    thank you for sharing this lovely Lady with us! xoxo

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Thanks for leaving a comment.. ~~ Inger

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